Anyone else find DSC's make them broody?

[Tamzin125]

DP and I are getting married next year and would really rather be married before ttc. But DSS who's 4 (almost 5) makes me so broody! I absolutely love spending time with him. Even though our flat is a total mess with toys and books everywhere, I love it. The house is so quiet without DSS here and I long for the day it's filled with children on a more permanent basis. Okay maybe not filled, but hopefully you know what I mean. We only have DSS every other weekend and at least half the holidays and it sucks him not being here - his mum is picking him up today for the second half of half term, so he won't be here when I get home from work. I know if DSS was my biological child, I'd have wanted another child by now. I've always thought I'd want an age gap of about 3/4 years and DSS just confirms that. But I also know that now is not the right time for us. I'm not convinced we could afford a baby right now, especially with saving for the wedding. And I really would rather get married first.

Anyone else find they're super broody when around their DSC's? I think it's worse as I haven't got any biological children, I don't think I'd be this bad if I did.

[Tamzin125]

Also just to say, I've made it sound like it's just me who's broody, but it's really not. DP is super broody too but we both know the time isn't right just yet.

[alwaystryingtobeafriend]

I wouldnt say the kids make me broody as such. More like i want my own child(ren) so i can raise them how i want and do the things that im 'not allowed' to do. For example dsc's doesnt want kids to snuggle in or hug me. Im not allowed to be at school events or birthdays etc.

So i am broody in that i want my own baby so i can do all this stuff that i miss out on with the dsc.

Hope that makes sense. Xx

[Tamzin125]

always that sounds horrible you're not even allowed to hug them! Know the feeling on the school events etc but I can't imagine never being allowed to hug DSS!

need that makes sense and perhaps explains how I feel better than I did in my first post. I've been broody for years, DSS just hugely intensifies it. Both in the way my DP is with him and how much I enjoy being around him.

Talking about it is making me even broodier but unfortunately we can't do anything about it for another 14 months :/

[Wifeandstepmum]

Ah I'm with you. DH and I married earlier this year and have been ttc, I am so broody. Trouble is dsd has a radar for us doing the dirty and seems to know exactly when to wake up and walk in. Grrrrr.

[riverboat1]

Not me! I have never been sure if I wanted children, and although DSS is a great kid, having him in my life hasn't done anything to tip that balance for me. If anything it makes me more wary of doing so. Although DP is a good dad and I would quite like to experience being a parent with him.

[WestEast]

God yes.
We can't ttc at the minute cos I've just started a new job which is only a 12 month contract and I want something more stable before we try. Plus DSD is already a lovely big sister and her mum won't be having any more and she's already told me she wants me to have a baby with her daddy

[fackinell]

Christ no!! I've known my DP's DD from the ages of 14-17 and she's the best contraceptive going. I've been nothing but pleasant to her but get a continuous bucket load of shit in return. I actually wanted kids when I met her Dad and she has put me off!!

[chocoraisin]

absolutely. Right up until all the kids wake up 2-3 times a night and want breakfast at 6am but we have 4 between us, aged between 2 and 7 so we really don't need any more!! Our youngest is mine anyway so I'm not long out of the baby stage and it's less romantic for me having done it twice already. But I know what you mean about doing it together, and loving seeing DP as a dad. It's very attractive and I think it's natural when you're in love to want to become a family unit yourselves. Be patient - the right time is worth waiting for.

[NerdyBird]

I already wanted children when I met DP, so like other posters have said it just intensified. I now have 17 week old DD asleep beside me .
We didn't wait to get married and we can only just about afford it but time wasn't on our side so it made sense.

[getthefeckouttahere]

oh tamzin,

what a lovely enthusiastic post! Do you know what i would do if i was you? Book a wedding as soon as possible, hire a cheap church hall, local band, ask people to bring food in lieu of presses. Tell everyone that your doing it this way as you don't want to wait because you want to start a family! (i think most people will love it) Then a'hem, get on with the ttc bit!

I doubt for one second that you what ever regret doing it this way!!

Bugger the big wedding, get on and do what you really want to do!

[Tamzin125]

getthefeckouttahere - I've only just seen your post. Tbh I'd love to book it asap. However we originally booked to get married this year and then there was an issue which meant we thought it best to postpone, so we lost the deposits that time. Turns out we could've got married this year, but never mind, it's too late now. We're keeping it super simple anyway - ceremony in the church led by someone I've known for several years and DP has known for about a year now, church hall in the afternoon which is free as we go to the church, followed by a disco at the local sports and social club. We're doing the catering ourselves (well, our family are) and we've had lots of help from family and friends with other things. Money wise there's no issue doing it sooner but I feel like since we've already changed the date once, people would find it weird us changing it again.

We had a bit of an oopsy month not long back and my period was late. DP and I got super excited and thought there was a possibility of me being pregnant. We were both gutted when AF finally turned up. However, we had a rather long chat about things and agreed we would wait and start trying on our honeymoon. There are a few things that would be useful to sort out before ttc, not absolutely essential but it makes sense to sort it now rather than when heavily pregnant / with a newborn. I'm sure the time will go quickly (I can't believe we've been engaged almost a year already!!) and we'll appreciate it much more when it does happen :)