Does anyone else have a DP who undergoes a personality transplant EOW?! When DSCs are here he becomes unbearable. The DSCs are not a problem but DP turns into a defensive argumentative arse.
By the time DSCs leave I'm ready to walk out too. He does do everything for them which he admits he finds tiring but won't encourage them to do things themselves (eg he'll serve them their meals in their rooms, run a bath for them, sort out phone/tablet chargers etc - they're 13 and 11 and perfectly capable). If I suggest they do something he snaps at me as if I'm asking them to lick the kitchen floor clean rather than bring their own laundry downstairs. I try to keep my nose out and then I'm accused of being unsupportive.
Also, can I ask here if it is unreasonable to say no to the Xbox being played on downstairs when DS is awake? He's 23 months and I'd really rather him not see games like call of duty, there's a tv upstairs they can play it on but I'm told it's too small. DP agrees that he doesn't want it played on in front of DS but this seems to be forgotten about and when I say anything he launches into how I'm being unfair. Tbh I'd rather it not be played on in this house at all but I appreciate that is going too far so agree its fine when he's not around.
DP has just given me a lecture on letting boys be boys and not taking their childhoods away by imposing chores on them and I'm feeling a bit rubbish.
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whilewildeisonmine · 04/05/2014 13:47
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