DSD is 12. Every week when she comes to us she seems worse! DH picks her up from school on a Friday, then we take her home Sunday evening.
When he picks her up from school, her uniform is always filthy, and not just usual school day stains. It smells and her shirt collar is dirty. She always smells a bit cheesy. This week he picked her up from home as it's half term. Her top was covered in stains and a few holes, she had snot all over her face, and the soles of her feet were black.
She doesn't seem to care or even notice. We have to remind her to have a good wash, brush her teeth, brush her hair etc when she is getting ready for bed. If we didn't, she wouldn't do it. Unless reminded she doesn't even wipe herself when she goes to the toilet (number 1 and 2), and the same with washing her hands after using the toilet.
Her mum is expecting a baby any day, and it has seemed to have got worse recently. I'm guessing DSD is maybe feeling a bit threatened by the idea of a new baby taking the attention away from her.
But even before that, we still had this problem with her. I'm worried, as I can only see it getting worse. She's bullied at school but nothing seems to get through to her. When she's here, she is always clean with clean clothes, neat hair etc, but not at home. It worries me that she's got no self awareness of how dirty she is. She hasn't yet started her periods, but I'm dreading when she does as she hasn't even mastered the basic toilet habits.
Does anyone have any advice? We obviously don't want to tell her she stinks, but need to somehow drum it into her how important this is.
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Dirty smelly DSD :-(
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ots · 12/04/2014 10:55
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