Sorry, this isn't a step parent issue as we're not married or living together, but I thought you guys might have some experience and good advice to offer.
The situation is that I have two children, dd age nearly 12 and ds age 8. I have been with my dp a year after spending two years on my own with the children after I separated from their father. They have no contact with their father due to his abusive behaviour and it has been difficult for dd in particular. She has had issues with behavioural problems going back a long time before I met dp.
Anyway, the current issue is that she does not want me to have anyone in my life apart from her and at a push her brother. She is resentful of my friends but most of all about dp. We are taking things slowly because of the children, only see each other twice a week and one of those nights we will go out somewhere so we are not around the children, but we do tend to have a weekend day together and have been doing some nice things together with the children eg cinema, ice skating, stuff the children are involved in choosing. So this means that dd sees me on my own five nights out of seven, sometimes more. She has plenty of opportunity to spend one to one time with me but chooses to spend most of her time in her room alone.
Dp has always been very good with both children and he has a lovely relationship with my ds. He is very patient and even tempered with them and hasn't pushed things with dd. But dd is horribly rude to him, will ignore him or call him cheeky names, and her behaviour generally is really poor. She doesn't like dp coming round at all and refuses to join in now when we have anything planned.
I think part of it is hormones, part of it is her general unhappiness and behavioural issues and part of it is jealousy about me having a dp.
Can anyone help me to deal with this please? The situation is bad for everyone involved and I think we are at the point where we can't go on like this. It is really getting me down and for the first time dp has said he's not coming over tonight because of dd's behaviour.
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OhWesternWind · 04/04/2014 15:23
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