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Fed up of Social services being silly

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alita7 Wed 02-Apr-14 15:46:52

So... DSD was moved to us by social services. She's been moved from the at risk register to a child in need and they are gradually going through the process of making sure everything with her mother is sorted before closing her case.
But they are driving us mental- they cancel visits to our home (they obviously don't feel the need to see her now they've moved her anyway) hours after they were meant to arrive, so we spend ages making the house perfectly clean as you do, and we wait around for ages, while they don't answer their phones, and to eventually find out they're not coming, DSD could be taken out to the park or something during that time but instead we waste a day being bored.
DP told them from the second everything kicked off that the only day he really couldn't do was a Wednesday as he is doing a college course which only runs on Wednesday, yet they have persistently booked meetings on Wednesdays over the last year or so and then send out letters saying Wednesday, often with only a couple of days notice and of course they then grumble when it has to be changed. Today DP got a call at college from the social worker saying that at the last meeting about 2 months ago, they had arranged a meeting for today (he always puts everything into his phone, so this cannot be the case as it is not in his phone and he would never have agreed to a Wednesday as he now has a real bee in his bonnet about it) and they were waiting for him (though the Mother was also unable to attend) so now they're grumbling that they have to change this too...

Why do they do it- he has asked many times for it to be put on her file that no meetings should be scheduled for Wednesdays so why why why can't they do a simple thing?!

alita7 Wed 02-Apr-14 15:48:35

(he also was not sent a letter for today's meeting...)

TheScience Wed 02-Apr-14 15:49:26

Is your social worker just very disorganised? Do they have a manager you could speak to about the impact their lack of organisation is having on your DSD/family?

sandiy Thu 03-Apr-14 22:25:24

Inform the social worker that you are unhappy with all the chopping and changing.Ask for the next meeting dates to be set at this meeting.If no joy phone children's services and speak to the manager of your social worker.This isnot acceptable.

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Fri 04-Apr-14 14:47:33

Welcome to the world of SS

They sent someone out to see ds today, and spoke about him like he was the abuser not the victim, only when I put them right did they say oh we'll have to change the allocated worker then, sorry.

They knew enough to know I'd got a dog though. I was left all hmm wtaf they playing at..

alita7 Fri 04-Apr-14 14:58:05

I don't know... its like they treat everyone with the same brush, whether you are the 'good' parents or the 'bad' parents! We're only involved with them because dsd was abused In her mother's care and she made the situation worse- we're the good ones! yet they make us run through hoops! they made it really hard for us to get custody yet were nagging at us to hurry up and take her or shed be fostered. yet they wouldn't help as find somewhere near her school (couldn't get priority on housing list as we were out of area and she wasn't already with us). Hmph!

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Fri 04-Apr-14 16:58:36

Think its down to over stretching and I imagine they see so many bad pretending to be good and worry about the next baby p ect that they're a bit over zealous ?

And stuff tidying up, they don't like to see pristine homes, apparently they then think the kids aren't allowed to play or make a mess. Go figure lol

Just nod smile jump through the hoops and get signed off ASAP

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