Bit of history. Ex introduced new girl (I say girl because she was 19 at the time-ex was 26) over Xmas 2012. I had no idea he was seeing someone, we'd only split 4 months before, I found out cos DD was talking about "we took so and sos dog for a walk today" and I confronted ex and he said she'd seen the girls 4 times. I must admit I was raging at the lack of respect he showed for me by not telling me about her and also introducing her on Boxing Day when it was the first Xmas our girls had without their parents together. Anyway. Told him he was out of order for not telling me and that he'd introduced her a bit earlier than I would have liked but whats done is done etc. Had several problems throughout the first 6 months of 2013 (cancelling overnights cos "we want to go out", not paying full amount of child support because and I quote "so and so and I are going abroad for a fortnight and I need money for the holiday") basically he ended up barely seeing them and in the end I told him he couldn't have them any more. 9 weeks later we met for a chat and he admitted hed been a maasive prat (understatement) and since then hes had them EOW and extra in school holidays.
Gosh thats long! But the kids haven't seen exs GF since October. Eldest keeps asking me "Daddy says shes gone to a different school but when will she be back?" (Shes a Uni Student) I have no clue what to say and I've emailed several times since Xmas 2013 and asked him if they have split. He ignores me them and I won't bring it up when he picks up/drops off the kids as I don't want to risk an argument in front of them. I've asked him for a simple yes or no, and no reply. Its parents evening on Wednesday and hes picking me up as he doesn't know where DDs new school is. Am thinking of asking him then as he can't ignore me.
AIBU? I don't like that he could be lying to the kids, and if they are still together why haven't they seen her? If my DH and I split I would tell ex as thatd be a major change in their life and hes entitled to known these sorts of things.
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notthegirlnextdoor · 17/03/2014 08:59
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