I have been with my husband for just over two years. He has yet to secure court ordered contact that allows them to come to our home or meet me (he sees them 1 day a week). I have a baby due in about 3 months. Depending on court progression, there is a chance his children could meet me either 8 weeks before, 9 days before or not until after the baby is due.
Last year, DSCs mother had said that I would be introduced to the children at the start of this year but then changed her mind in January. She hasn't given any solid reasons for her objections but I can appreciate her reluctance at introducing "the new partner" having been in her position a few years ago. I'm not the OW in case that makes a difference.
So, in the absence of a way to go back and delay the conception of their half-sibling - what's the best way to handle this? DH hasn't said anything yet as they are both quite young (just turned 5 and nearly 4).
Any tips on what to say, when to say it etc would be appreciated. DH has considered putting together photos and video messages from us here to "introduce" us without actually meeting us but I'm unsure. The DSC do know about me and my children and have since last year. DSC often send colouring pages as "gifts" to my children and are keen to meet them.
I'm concerned that their mother will confuse them by saying our baby isn't their sibling or that they will never see the baby - these fears aren't completely unfounded, he's only just got DSC to believe that he is their dad after they'd been saying things like "Mummy says you can't be our daddy because you don't live with us" etc.
I'd appreciate if people didn't point out that we should have waited for a final court order before conceiving - we are already aware of that.
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ElBumpo · 13/03/2014 17:17
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