So last weekend my boyfriend of a year told me he loved my DD. We were talking about living together, we were both saying how we wanted to wait a few more months, and maybe increase the time he spends at my house with DD.
He was being lovely and said he thinks it will be good, he then said "I love you and DD".
I said "I don't see how you can and don't say it if you don't mean it"
He said he did, then changed the subject.
I was caught way of guard...he spends one evening a week with her and has known her about 9 months. DD is 4 and he doesn't have kids, if that makes any difference.
Part of me feels he said it because he wants to feel it, if that makes sense. Maybe he does mean it....he has done some lovely, thoughtful things for her.
And maybe I'm comparing it to the love I have for her.....thinking he can't possibly love her like I interpret loving her because of the limited time he has known her??
Anyway, he seemed quite hurt by my reaction (which I understand) the next day I did apologise about what I'd said (over text) I explained I no idea he was going to say that (when he told me he loved me I did have an idea it was coming ). He said not to worry about it.
Do I mention it again? Will I have knocked his confidence maybe? Not really sure if I need to do anything about it or not?
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DoodleBugBug · 03/03/2014 14:02
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