Thank G. they have gone to bed!

[entersandmum]

Well Dsd10 has had her usual, laying in the same pj's for 3 days, whilst flicking channels and demanding food, drink, Caligula style from the sofa.

DP is pissed off that I dare suggest Dsd10 change out of said pj's after her shower, (this has been an entire day of asking and pretending Dsd10 hadn't said no), Dsd10 is still in the same clothes she has wore since Friday.

I have had a day of Dsd10 being pissed off for not taking her to the park, ( still in pj's an hour after I suggested it), Not procuring instant access to sugary sweets, (my Dc only have occasionally),

Still get the 'shiteye' look whenever possible and Dsd10 was in my bed again, as soon as i had got up with dd4.

I love DP, and for a fortnightly cycle we have a great time. I find it so hard once HRH is here, he changes and so do I.

[louby44]

No children get fed lunch or tea in my house unless they are dressed! It's one of our rules. I'm not sitting eating a meal surrounded by kids in pj's and onesies!

No longer a SP and don't miss it one bit!

[supermariossister]

I wouldnt be putting tea on the table if people were milling around in pyjamas all day, in my house unless you are sick you get dressed, I relent and let them laze about hols or weekends but it grates on me completley and by lunchtime I will be insisiting everyone is dressed. don't know why just have always felt that way to me pyjamas are for when sleeping.

[daisychain01]

I agree with what folks have said on here. Re PJs in the day on a regular basis = the rot sets in and before you know it, they are at working age and cant be arsed cant tell the difference between night and day.

entersandmum surely to goodness DSDs 'D'F has some inclin that he is endorsing his child's behaviour by allowing her to slop around, not taking pride in her appearance AND enabling those Caligula demands (which I trust you ignore, ignore ). Presumably he's scared of her not wanting to come back, by him (whats the MN saying ... Ah yes "growing a pair").

4 words for next steps -

House rules
Benign dictatorship

[daisychain01]

Sorry I was rambling a bit - I'll rephrase that

Presumably he's scared of her not wanting to come back, by him turning a blind eye. He needs to ...whats the MN saying ... Ah yes "grow a pair".

[shey02]

Oh Enters, I know what you mean about changing. My dp changes dramatically and he refuses to acknowledge it happens, it's like having two different bf's. Guilty/scared parenting may possibly be the death of my relationship.

[daisychain01]

shey02

[hercules1]

Why was she in your bed? Dd is 10 and we co slept with both dc for years but not at 10. Why is she being allowed to lie on a sofa in pjs for days. This is not at at all ok. Can't imagine dd living like that. Your dh is doing her no favours.

[hercules1]

Hope no one got her any food or drinks whilst she was lying on sofa.

[BuzzLightbulb]

Yeah, same here. Can't be bothered getting dressed, I can't be bothered feeding or clearing up after you.

My 14 yr old DSD came home last Sunday cold and wet after an hour of horse riding, went for a shower and came down in pj's at 1.30 ! I told her to go put some clothes on, 1 hour's exercise wasn't enough to write off the rest of the day.

You maybe need to ask DP if he thinks this is acceptable behaviour. I suspect he'll say well no not really but he doesn't want to upset her. And then agree how you're going to communicate the house rule you will just have agreed ! Btw that means he tells her, and you stay out of it for a few weeks until she's got used to the idea.

Btw -we used to have a problem with the DSC's lying around all day when they came to us because they'd been left to stay up late all week. Not saying its an excuse, but tired children are just grotty.