I foolishly made some surprise Valentine's Day arrangements, we don't get out much as we don't have much free time or much money so this was going to be a little treat. Nothing fancy, just an overnight stay and dinner in a nice local hotel.
We don't have the kids this week, and I checked with DP she had no plans for Saturday and she said no.
Her 3 kids are with their dad this week, he has plans to take them to visit relatives. 16 yr old daughter is kicking up a fuss cos she has a party to go to so Dad has said she'll have to stay with us.
This is complicated because we had offered to have her full time while she studies for her exams. Dad admits his house is a bit disruptive.
So this came up over dinner last night, text from Dad saying daughter is refusing to go away with them.
Now to me, that's his problem. In my head she can miss a party for a change. They're only going away for two days.
DP says that because we've just offered to have her full time for her exam revision we have to have her this weekend. I pointed out that she ought to think about what this Friday is and that this issue is nothing to do with exam revision, it's a 16yr old who's always been able to wrap her disney dad round her finger.
Oh, and I get on fine with her by the way !!
Anyway, I had to spell out what I'd arranged, and that it was meant to be a surprise.Apparently she hates surprises, which is a bit of a kick in the teeth.
And we can still have Friday together, just we'll have a 16yr old with us. She's not safe to leave in the house by herself so we'll probably not get out either.
Am I being over sensitve? Should I just roll over and cancel everything?
My choice is stick to my guns, and see who blinks first. If I don't cancel today I lose the money for the room booking, chances of her making a decision today are historically slim as her ex will kick off if we don't make life easy for him.
Just fold and swallow it as another chance to spend time together gone begging. And another reminder that here DD's social life is more important than us?
Feel selfish, but on the other hand we have just had a surprise birthday dinner for DSD and she was out at two parties last weekend. And the ex has a history of ducking any sort of parenting.
Do I get voted down for being the evil male partner ??
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