My DH has decided to agree to the no-contact order that his DS's Mum has applied for.
The system is just so complicated - he's still not heard about the Schedule 2 letter that CAFCASS should have (according to regulations) written before the first hearing, no one has been in touch to check on the welfare of my resident DD following DHs exW's allegations of abuse in court (I doubt they've even been passed to Social Services, it's no wonder DCs fall though the gaps), and despite the requirement for both parties to consider mediation and attend an initial assessment meeting, it's clear that can be bypassed without too much of a problem, as its just not been mentioned.
We can't afford legal representation, and there are too many 'irregularities' in the process already for DH to be able to represent himself - he can do all the reading, research & preparation in the world only for the Court/CAFCASS to decide not to follow the expected process/procedure on the day. He can't fight the system. As long as the DCs directly involved in court proceedings are safe right now, the long term or wider picture just isn't a consideration, everyone involved is too busy.
I give it six months before DHs ex tries to involve us in another drama. It's endless.
I'm just expected to suck it up; welcome DHs DCs into my home if/when they decide they want to be accommodated, leave the house if they are more comfortable without me around and accept the damage, theft and lying that accompanies them. If DH sympathises with me, and suggests that the demands being made of me are unreasonable, then he's accused of abandoning his DCs. The same DCs that he'll be court-ordered to have no contact with.
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Frogbyanothername · 04/02/2014 12:12
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