Hi there
I'm here posting again to see if I can get some more great advice on my situation and whether anyone has been here before.
If you have seen previous posts you will know that myself and DP have two DS each (mine are 9&4) his (10&8) I have my children most of the time apart from EOW, he has his 50% of the time. They live a 45 minute drive from us (really nice area). I own a house and he is in rented and the house he is in is now on the market. In November we decided that we would rent together slap bang in the middle of the both us but then our sums didn't quite add up and we decided against it. He then decided that he would buy so that we would both have a house and if all goes to plan sell them both in a couple of years and buy together. However he is going to have to get a 95% mortgage on a £300k property as he has no deposit, he will be left very short at the end of the month. Where he needs to live there is not a lot available within his budget so we decided to look at renting again halfway, rejigging our sums, however where we need to be is expensive and hardly anything comes up to rent in our budget. I want to be in a relationship where I can imagine living with them at some point in the future, I don't want to have separate lives forever. With anyone.
Both of our eldest children are in Y5 so we need to make our decisions for secondary by October 31st. There is an outstanding secondary where DP lives which is where his DS's will go. My options are as follows and I wondered what opinions anyone may have:
a) we carry on as we are, he rents in his area, we spend the summer together as a temporary living arrangement to see how it goes
b) I rent my place out and we TRY and find somewhere halfway
c) He buys then we sell both in a couple of year
d) I rent mine out, move to his area and put my sons in local schools (but my son has SATs in September going into Y6?)
e) Do I just throw in the towel and accept that it's just an impossible situation?
I just don't know what to do, a couple of friends said that if I really loved him I wouldn't give it a second thought and would just move...
I do love him and can see a future with him, it's just that the schooling is just making the decision harder.
Please help....
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DLCC · 26/01/2014 12:10
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