Background info: I had dc with exh, dh, also has previous dsc and dc. We now also have ds together. We have been together 6 yrs.
We booked a summer holiday, which was bloody difficult as we are a v large group. But we didn't go on holiday last year or anywhere as I was going through huge amounts of surgery and illness. I Have been discharged and hopeful this year will be better. But the dc missed out hugely last year with everything.
Dhs older girls haven't bothered to keep up contact despite out huge attempts. We tried hard for 2 girls 18ths but no thankyous etc. They don't phone and don't answer the phone when called. I begged dhs actual dd to come over for his dhs 40th but had to buy her a pair of trainers so she would.
I booked the holiday for the ones that live with us and the ones we see regularly. Dsd has taken umbrage she is not invited. Said I've excluded her from the family. She will be 19 and actually dh and I hadn't even contemplated she would want to come. Every time we ask her anywhere she says no. And at 19 I wouldn't have dreamt of going in holiday with my parents. She didn't come over all year despite numerous invites and with me being so ill it would have been great from the dc to see their older sister. We've paid the deposit on the holiday.
I feel really guilty she feels rejected. We've offered her some money towards a holiday with friends, which she has declined.
If we do anything with anyone she always gets jealous. But when we include her she always declines. She's 19 at college but has no job. It does feel a bit as though she's trying to prove a point. She did also have a foreign holiday last year as we paid towards that. Our other dc had nothing. So I don't feel it's overly unfair.
Your thoughts please! I feel horrible!
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MrsExtraOrdinary · 08/01/2014 12:30
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