Oh god yeah!
The first time I met her we were in the court lobby, financial settlement not contact order. I was with DH and his parents, she was with her friend. We ended up sitting opposite her for an hour, although DH and his parents didn't recognise her, apparently she had done her hair different colour and she'd lost some weight. It was only afterwards they realised.
I remember seeing this woman fidgeting across from us looking very uncomfortable, we were all relaxed, joking, I was holding DH hands for support. I cringe now thinking about it.
The second time I met her I was 8 months pregnant at the second hearing, it was a massively exhausting day, and she avoided us like the plague.
The last time I met her was when collecting DH stuff from the FMH, except we didn't because it had all been left out in the rain and was ruined with months of damp and cold weather exposure. She had left a lot of her love letters open and on the top of the things. I have absolutely no idea why (seeing as she was with her husband-to-be). She just stared at the floor. I said to DH as he was about to pick through all the damaged belongings, not to bother, as obviously it was all damaged and we'd buy new stuff and he'd obviously not missed any of it in the last 3 years, and how disrespectful it was to leave personal belongings outside like that. I was not bothered if they heard me and DH agreed with me.
I was a few days from giving birth, and my temper had started to flare. Neither the ex or her husband-to-be could look us in the eye. They probably thought it was really clever leaving DH things to get ruined, but as the court order stated it was their responsibility to get rid of anything DH didn't want the last laugh was on them. Seeing as there must have been 2 vans worth of stuff.
I've never seen her since, and I really worry about DH and our DC's being excluded from any special occassions DSS has because of it.
I really want to be civil to the woman, but as she has tried to blackmail us for money, and pulled all sorts of stunts whilst I have been pregnant (both times) and causing us god knows how much stress, I really don't know how I am going to pretend it all never happened.
Good luck Frog, I hope everything works out ok for you, take comfort in the fact that you are quite clearly not as batty as she is. :)