So finally after the last 3 years dh and I have been together things seem to be looking slightly better between dh and his ex; apart from one of the few minor things that are going on.
Dss has been flared up by his school with possible ADD. He had an ECG done yesterday to rule out epilepsy but will have further testing I think for ADD. Anyway, dh's ex is ridiculously worried and doesn't know what to do with herself. To be fair, I'm unsure how I would feel as I've yet to have a child (am currently pregnant with baby #1, please be kind to me if you had any harsh criticism) but obviously it would be worried but it's not a life or death situation. Last night dh and his ex were chatting on the phone as she has lots of worries; dh isn't as worried as dss is a clone of him and between the two of them their personality traits are pretty much exactly the same. I have read up on ADD and it can be genetic, hence why dh isn't worried as he has grown up to be a well developed guy who has his head on his shoulders and luckily has made a good business for himself. Basically he's not stupid, but will only really pay attention to subjects that he takes a lot of interest in (typical ADD sign!) dh was trying to explain this to his ex but she wasn't having any of it, tried to start an argument, but dh felt it wasn't necessary and told her she shouldn't worry as he was exactly the same as dss when at school but he turned out fine.
Moving on, this morning I wake up to find a message from her via Facebook, basically saying he doesn't give a shit, and he doesn't support her enough or dss. It's as though she wants me to do something about it, but these messages in the past never get me or her anywhere. I'm wondering if she's trying to make me convert dh, but how can I nag him on how he parents his own child?! Or am I being a bit stupid?
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I feel like the middle man...help or advice greatly appreciated!
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K8eee · 20/12/2013 12:53
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