Hi everyone,
I just thought I'd come and introduce myself, as I'm semi new to MN.
I'm so glad and gutted to find this thread as my previous experience of MN was just on the conception threads and I never thought to seek help and advise here after my whole 'conception' stuff turned to disaster.
I joined MN about 7 years ago when I just got married and started thinking about having children. Unfortunately things weren't to be, my ExDH and I had major issues around conceiving and he was found to be the problem (no blame...things just happen). By the time we got our letter that we were moving to the next steps for IVF, I'd received my first letter telling me of our divorce. I don't begrudge, as things happen for a reason and if we couldn't communicate through issues with fertility then probably a blessing we split without kids involved.
I then met someone who had split from his wife and had three kids. When he split they were DD 6, DS4 and DD1. We waited 18 months for me to be introduced. This was due to many reasons. I was made known to his ex after we'd dated a couple of months...but we wanted to make sure things were okay for the kids before any introduction. I should add I met and started dating him 4 months after they separated. And things were still very raw.
Their mum decided to move away around 400 miles before I met the kids and then, due to financial reason DP moved another 200 miles to live in my home. At that point I met is DC. Since then, his ex has moved with the kids another 200miles away. We have them for pretty much all the holidays. Which is lovely and hard some times.
Myself and DP (I have to refer to him as such as his divorce took 4 years to process) don't have any kids apart from his...but we are just deciding to take take the next step and try for our own.
It's been very tough to deal with at times. My DPs ex hasn't been easy for me to cope with, often being vindictive and horrid to me and she's done some fairly shocking things where the break down of their marriage has been concerned and the courts and police have had to be involved. Suffice to say, I wish I known about this thread sooner and sought advice.
Nothing else to add, except...I'm glad to have found this thread, now we trying and I hope to gain a lot of wisdom and advise from you all.
Thanks,
LO
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Hi everyone and I'm so glad I finally found this thread
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LittleOwlie · 16/11/2013 00:45
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