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Why is this my responsibility?

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needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 10:24:07

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needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 10:32:51

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FannyFifer Sat 09-Nov-13 10:34:26

Continue with your plans, I would not bring her on day out as she should be at school.

flowerpotgirl12 Sat 09-Nov-13 11:34:13

I think you should continue your plans also. it's unfair to expect you to change the plans and disappoint your kids and mum because dsd's mum has decided she can't go to school. it should be up to her parents to sort out. you don't want to get in the habit of doing whatever they want when they want or it's impossible to stop, trust me, I started out doing a favour and now it's expected to the point of ridiculousness

RandomMess Sat 09-Nov-13 11:36:50

If it's her Mum refusing to send her to school then it's her mum's problem. I suggest dh tells her that he does not agree with her having the day off school - the sooner she gets back into the UK time zone the better!

Handbagsonnhold Sat 09-Nov-13 11:37:27

So the mother hasn't seen her for 2 weeks and then says you 'have' to have her....hhhmmmmm

ChippingInLovesAutumn Sat 09-Nov-13 11:38:20

If she wants her DD to have another day off school, then she can take the day off work. How utterly rude to decide to keep the child off then expect someone else to look after her... as for your DH hmm

ProphetOfDoom Sat 09-Nov-13 11:39:10

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UC Sat 09-Nov-13 11:45:46

She should go to school.

Your DH is enabling his exW. He needs to stand up to her - tell her he has an interview, you have plans and if she's working, DSD must go to school (where she should be anyway). If her mum decides she cannot go to school, she needs to sort out who looks after her.

A day of being tired at school will not harm her.

allnewtaketwo Sat 09-Nov-13 11:49:27

Agree with the others - stand firm and do not change your plans. I too would refuse to bring a child on a day out, when they should be in school

Heymacarena Sat 09-Nov-13 11:54:35

It isn't your responsibility.

1 - she should be going to school - get back into the routine
2- if not, then seeing as mum made the decision, then she takes the day off work and spends time with her dd who she hasn't seen for 2 weeks.

Tell your DH that you have plans for that day - so he needs to tell his ex to sort it out herself.

Floggingmolly Sat 09-Nov-13 11:57:34

If she arrives on your doorstep, escort her into school and continue with your day as planned. Her mother sounds like a loon.

MatryoshkaDoll Sat 09-Nov-13 11:59:32

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CaptainSweatPants Sat 09-Nov-13 12:00:38

If she's very tired could she stay with pil as they're all coming back from holiday together?

marriedinwhiteisback Sat 09-Nov-13 12:04:47

How old is she? Why has she been abroad outside half term? Sounds like her mother thinks school is a form of childcare rather than a place to learn. I think she should go to school or her PIL should look after her or her mother. I assume this isn't a usual contact day though.

NatashaBee Sat 09-Nov-13 12:07:55

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needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 12:24:33

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needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 12:24:51

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RandomMess Sat 09-Nov-13 12:31:25

Why on earth did anyone agree to the PILS taking her out of school confused

Moxiegirl Sat 09-Nov-13 12:38:24

That's what gets me about dp's xw, she makes a decision and we end up implementing it!
She is choosing to keep her off so she should be looking after her. Ideally she should go to school.

needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 12:51:07

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allnewtaketwo Sat 09-Nov-13 13:07:44

Are these he same PIL that spoil your DSC but pretty much ignore yours? Sorry if I've confused you with someone else

Thants Sat 09-Nov-13 13:12:55

Why does she want her to have a day off on Monday?
Just take her to school!

ZombieMojaveWonderer Sat 09-Nov-13 14:55:42

This really makes me mad. Your step child's mother should take the day off and look after her own child. You would think she would want to see her after she had been away too.

needaholidaynow Sat 09-Nov-13 16:20:18

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