Where to start , oldest DSS is 16 and lives with us full time. He spends random nights at his DMs.
He plays us all off against each other terribly (I know a lot of kids do) but things have gotten rely bad with it. To the point I feel distrusting of him in our home, he shit stirs between houses to his own advantage, he has told me on more than one occasion he looks in his DMs phone at her messages etc so now I feel I can't even leave my phone unattended in the house. He tell lies between houses a lot which causes no end of shit.
He also cherry picks when he wants to go to his DMs usually when he has been grounded so he can sneak out etc and gives us little or no notice of these plans (very annoying when I've cooked him a dinner) despite us asking him to give us a little notice.
On this subject I have now told DH he has got to organise with ex and DSS set nights as im fed up of not knowing what's going on in my own home from one day to the next and seeming its often me doing the primary care as he works away I feel my opinion should count.
I know teenagers will be etc but surely I shouldn't be living in my own home feeling like there is a spy amongst us!
Does anyone have any advice with squashing this playing off?
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Playing us all off, trust gone and fed up
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NorthernNanny5 · 05/11/2013 10:36
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