Hi All,
I was wondering if there may be any solicitor's or anyone who may be able advise on here regarding a pretty messy matter.
In brief - my husband and I have children however years before he met me my husband was married to someone else and they had two children. His ex wife had an affair and left him with the two children and she is not a very nice woman. After leaving him, her and her now husband used to threaten him and turn up at his house and one time broke his door down for no reason other than to be nasty. To cut a long story short, due to ill feeling between my husband and his ex wife, he has not seen his other two children for a few years and maintenance has stopped. Recently we received a letter from a firm of solictors asking that he gives consent to the children having a name change and also asking him to attend court to give agreeement to a Parental Agreement or Step father agreement. We presume this is because his ex wife wants her new husband to take over role as father. My husband has written back to the solictor and given consent to the name change by signing a form and he has said that he will give agreement to the parental agreeement, so we are waiting to hear what he has to do. However today my husbnad has had a call from the CSA saying that they have it on their systems to ring for an update from him regarding his income, but they told him that his ex wife has not asked for this and hasn't been in touch with them for some time, but that the case with the CSA is still open. Obviously if his ex wife asks the CSA to close the case then that will be the end of it. We do not feel that if my husband is agreeing to everything that he has been asked to agree to that it is fair for him to still be pursued by the CSA and we have written back to his solictor asking that the CSA are removed and that then he will agree to the parental agreeement.
The parental agreement is based on a load of lies as his ex wife has said he hasn't made any effort to see the children, which is not true as we previously had a solicitor fighting for access and she said no to every suggestion we had and then moved them a few times so that now they are very far away.
My question is this - if my husband refuses to agree to the parental agreeement, will he be made to go to court? Does he have to go to court? Will he be in any trouble? We had agreed to give her what she wanted but think in this case that the csa should be removed too.
Any advice appreciated.
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mrsm22 · 30/10/2013 13:54
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