What does PR actually mean in practice?

[bellabom]

Reading a post further down I am thinking that I should suggest that my dds stepmum applies for PR (or whatever the process involves). My ex is a lazy git and she does so much with dd it seems a sensible idea. I trust her judgement on anything medical etc.
but what are the other implications? Would it give her right over decisions about schools/ residency etc?? I wouldn't really want it to be two people with PR against one if ex got an idea in his head and wage backed him over me...

[elliebellys]

Iv just googled it.yes she would have a say in schooling nd all other decisions like you nd ex have.also are they married,as if not she has to be included in a residence order or adopt trough the courts to obtain it.

[bellabom]

Hi Ellies your google skills are better than mine! Thanks for the info. I wonder what it would actually mean though... Like, if they applied for a school, would I still also need to agree... Thing is, she's wonderful, and spends so much time with dd that if it were a medical thing then I'd want her to be able to sort it. But... If he decided to be an ares about moving her school or something, I wouldn't want to be out numbered. They are married

[elliebellys]

Yes i suppose they could apply to schools,if you dissagreed youd have to go to court..has sm had any probs regarding medical appts etc

[bellabom]

Not, not yet. DD always has to wait and go with me because Dad will always be too busy. There are times where SM has offered but I said it would be a wasted trip if they sent her away. But it's more like if she had an accident (touch wood!) while she was with her and if she had to make a decision.

To be honest the more I think about it, although it seems sensible on the medical front, and it would also acknowledge the brilliantness of her stempmumming.. it might bite me in the arse.

[elliebellys]

Even if dd had an accident she could still get her help,think long nd hard,is it neccessary long term..has sm specifically asked for pr?

[bellabom]

They haven't asked, I reckon they think she automatically have it now they're married. They got married recently and there's been lots of talk about how she's now a proper step mummy. Maybe I shouldnt worry then.

[elliebellys]

Sm probably just means officially now.dont worry,just see how things go.:-)