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Should I keep texting my 2 DSD...?

(11 Posts)
daisychain01 Wed 16-Oct-13 06:13:13

Louby, just to say, it is their loss flowers

Move forward from that awful holiday, they may never realise what efforts you have made, life is bloody unfair sometimes, you deserve to be treated better.

Eliza22 Tue 15-Oct-13 21:57:00

Oh my Goodness, Louby! Leave it. Have some dignity. I remember your disastrous holiday post. It will gain you nothing but their contempt to keep texting. Let them come to you.

louby44 Tue 15-Oct-13 21:28:35


Nellie72 Tue 15-Oct-13 19:51:09

chances are they'll come around by christmas.......can't think why

purpleroses Mon 14-Oct-13 19:54:44

I think the odd text to wish them well at first day of college, happy birthday, etc is fine. Or a really casual one sharing a photo, link to something in the news, etc that you know they'd like. That sends out the signal - no hard feelings - without putting pressure on them.

But I wouldn't try to sort out the fallout by text - so texting them that you miss them, etc is probably not so helpful. Best leave it to your DP to try to build the bridges.

louby44 Mon 14-Oct-13 19:18:28

Thanks guys. I think I agree with you.

I hate falling out/not speaking with anyone, just my nature I suppose.

theredhen Mon 14-Oct-13 19:10:59

I'd leave it alone. You've tried. I'd detach from it. Don't beg them. If you feel the need, send one last text saying you won't bother them again but they're always welcome to contact you. But you need to not contact them after that.

sebsmummy1 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:56:28


sebsmummy1 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:55:59

I think you should leave it now. You've written enough to show them you care about them and miss them. No you e just got to hope that very slowly, they come found.

PeepingTomcat Mon 14-Oct-13 18:55:18

I'd leave it tbh. If they aren't interested there isn't much you can do, I messaged my estranged brother telling him he was welcome to come and see his niece and nephew, I would not mind, and did not want to row with him or DM, the response I got was a block.

louby44 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:52:31

Or leave well alone.

They've blanked me since our disaster holiday in August. The eldest (15) told me to not text her again which I didn't till the first day of school when I wished them both luck - no replies!

I text them both again at the weekend saying I missed them and was sorry if they thought I'd over stepped the mark speaking up about their attitude on holiday but that sometimes we have to accept stuff and that life was shitty etc..I told them they are always welcome here anytime.

No replies again.

DP is making progress with them slowly. So do I keep sending the odd text or just leave it? We all used to get on so well and I'm gutted that they think I'm a cow - which I aren't!

They don't realise how much I've smoothed things over for them with their dad over the years, quietly putting their point of views across to him.

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