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MIL's Double Standards.

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Could it be that she is nervous about having the boys, but feels confident to cope with the girl on her own?

Not that that is a reason to exclude the boys (which is mean and unacceptable) - but if it is why she is doing it, then knowing the problem means you can work on a solution.

littlemissmousey Thu 10-Oct-13 11:07:14

My mil is worse. She adores dss and Dsd but has never met her new 13wk old grandson?! She has shown no interest at all in meeting him. Hubby has had it out with her saying how hurt he is, after all our son is still her grandson, he holds exactly the same biological position as my hubby's two kids. She is vile though! My family love the dsc and obviously their grandson. I don't know why mil has chosen to exclude my son, it is hurtful but I know my son is loved by everyone else in his life including his big bro and sis

needaholidaynow Mon 07-Oct-13 17:45:32

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TensionWheelsCoolHeels Sun 06-Oct-13 16:48:30

needaholidaynow, did your DP point out to your MIL her hypocrisy? I don't know if I could hear someone be so blatantly hypocritical and not point it out to them.

needaholidaynow Sun 06-Oct-13 15:46:24

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fairy1303 Sun 06-Oct-13 15:33:03

My MIL is exactly the same - involved with DSD to the point of obsession but whilst she sees DS has actually told me she loves DSD more - 'well that's to be EXPECTED fairy, I have known her longer!!'

I think we just have to accept it - however hard and sad - it is her that will miss out, in the end.

allnewtaketwo Fri 04-Oct-13 22:26:52

With my MIL they're all her blood grandchildren and she still spoils he DSSs

louby44 Fri 04-Oct-13 22:14:23

It's very hurtful. My own parents treat my DP girls the same as my own two boys. But his parents practically ignore my boys.

On Christmas day last year it was very uncomfortable, both sets of parents were at our house for the day. My parents had paid for all 4 children to go to Warner Bros/Harry Potter studio tour and my parents had also bought DP 2 girls a bag of girly stuff, lip balm, mirror, little bits and pieces and a pair of pj's and slippers each.

My boys got ONE big tin of Celebrations to share. The boys didn't really notice and just said thank you. But I noticed and so did my DP; he was pretty disgusted with his parents and we spoke about it later that evening in bed.

His mum is nice enough but she's never really made any fuss of my boys. I know she doesn't need to and my boys honestly have no idea of what is going on. But because my parents (and extended family also) have included DP DD and welcomed them into our family it makes HIS family look a bit mean.

allnewtaketwo Fri 04-Oct-13 22:09:00

My MIL is the same. Has driven a massive wedge that can't be repaired. She barely sees any of them now. DS barely knows her.

needaholidaynow Fri 04-Oct-13 20:20:50

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