Quick name change as I may show DH this thread.
DH and DSD have fallen out, big time. It was a phone row over money and tbh was a long time coming.
She is 18 in a couple of weeks. On the phone she asked him if he was going to see her on her 18th and he said no. She said she was organising a meal and he said he wouldn't come. He was upset and angry at the time, but I doubt very much he will change his mind now.
I have detached from DSD over the last couple of years. She did a few things that upset me, so I withdrew a bit. I still love her, would do anything for her, but needed to stop being disappointed by her.
Last night she invited me to her 18th. It's a FB invite from her mum (that I have never got on with, never had a conversation with, never had anything to do with). Her dad hasn't had the same invitation, a few of her mums family have, but not dads family.
It's awkward. I can't go - DSD lives a long way away and it's just not practical for a number of reasons. I doubt very much she actually wants me there in any case, but she must know that I wouldn't go without DH, so it looks like there is a 'point' being made with the invite.
If I tell DH about the invite it will hurt him I think, and it may make things worse with DSD. If I don't tell him and he finds out it will also hurt him. Like I said, awkward.
I don't want to be involved, but now I am. What do I do?
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MissKittyFantastico · 13/09/2013 06:48
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