Before I start, I know lots of people will say 'I should think myself lucky' or 'I've nothing to complain about' but I am honestly struggling and need some advice, preferably not negative......
So here goes: me and DP have been together 3 1/2yrs, he has 2 children from prev marriage, DSS now 14yrs and DSD now 12yrs, plus we have a 5 month old DS together. When we got together his children lived with their mother and they accepted me immediately for which I am very grateful. However just over 2 yrs ago DSS decided he wanted to live with his dad which he readily agreed to, despite the fact we were just about to move in together and I wasn't given an option regards his son moving in with us immediately. Long story short DSS moved in and DSD visited regularly. I have never really been able to cope with a teenager suddenly being full time in my home, let alone getting used to living with DP for the first time! We now have a child of our own and to be honest I am at the end of my rope. I cannot cope with my DSS, despite him being fairly well behaved. He is untidy, inconsiderate, a typical teen I know. In fact compared to some he is an angel if you don't have to live with him. I just feel like I was never given a choice regards him moving in, other than accept it or risk losing my partner which would break my heart. I'm only 33, trying to adjust to life as a new mother and a reluctant stepmother and I'm struggling. How do I cope/adjust/not lose my mind??? Please help xx
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Ollypops1 · 11/09/2013 21:44
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