My new DP moved in a few months ago and he gets on with my children brilliantly. He actually, in my opinion, he does more with them than their dad ever did - and sadly, I think my ds1 is aware of this and feels very disloyal about how much he likes DP.
We do 50/50, so my DCs are with us for half the week. They are 13 and 15.
DS1 is happy to accept DP's gifts (he buys him the odd book, t-shirt, etc) but gets very upset when DP does 'dad' kind of things - like telling him to get on with his homework. He doesn't say anything much to DP, but tells me it upsets him because it reminds him his dad isn't here.
My feeling is that if DS1 is willing to accept the 'good stuff' DP offers, he can take some of the stuff he doesn't like, too. Give and take, kinda thing.
On the other hand, I can understand DS1's feelings.
I love them both, I want to back them both up. How can I do that?
Thanks in advance.
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DS struggling with DP 'replacing dad'. Please help.
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TaudrieTattoo · 08/09/2013 21:54
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