Dsd and Dss are teens and are very immersed in their social lives as is often the case at their age I expect. . We see them roughly fortnightly but this varies and is not 'set'. We also have a DS who is 6. He misses them badly when they are not here but has understood the situation up till now. DP has also mentioned to DSC that it would be nice if occasionally they thought to ring/ FaceTime to speak to DS when not with us. Quite often we suggest a time to do this and they say its not convenient. When we arrange a convenient time, they've forgotten. They don't reply to texts often. We pay for credit for their phones when it's needed so not down to that.
I'm sure this thoughtlessness is pretty standard teen behaviour. However over the last fee weeks DS has been very down about it. He mentions it at bedtimes, in the car etc "do DSC not like me any more/ I think they've forgotten about me" that kind of thing. We do reassure him of course and do try to organise for him to speak with them but as I mentioned this is often a painful process and relies on them answering their phones etc.
So questions are, has anyone else experienced this and how much in the way of contact to you expect from teenagers when not with you? Should we be firmer or leave well alone?
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How much do your older DSC stay in touch with younger siblings?
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Allsnugintheirbeds · 08/09/2013 15:43
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