This is regarding access, I have just printed Sept calendar for dh.
For the month of Sept he will have dsd for 18 of those days, 11 of them overnights the others are either days from 2pm until 8pm or returning her to her mums (or school) after spending the night(s) with us.
Due to dh work in those 30 days he has 3 days off to himself no dsd either side. 1 day each week except the last week.
We are struggling to find anytime to ourselves, dh works shifts and his specific pattern includes early am, late pm and night work.
I want to be very clear here and say I in no way dislike my dsd in the big picture however, it feels like she is always here and while that's not always a bad thing, she needs constant attention.
She is 10 this year and she cannot/will not do anything by herself. If I am in the kitchen and dh comes in she will call out 'daddy' or she will follow him in, this is also the case for our bedroom.
We are both shattered, bedtimes are interrupted because she has something she needs etc when we get into bed she will come and wake us up because she's hot, thirsty etc.
I see it as attention seeking, however she is the centre of the universe when she is here she makes sure of it and dh doesn't really do much to discourage this behaviour.
Dh and I need sometime together. Between work and dsd I get to see him alone for 1 day a week though not the whole day as he has things he needs to do and that evening he will go to bed very early as he is up very early am for work.
Is it wrong of us to ask to drop one of the 2pm-8pm days (which incidentally are before his nightshift) this means he will return from a nightshift get up at 2pm roughly then instead of having dsd will have until 9pm free. We could in that time have a nice dinner and time to catch up.
Is this unreasonable??
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Tittypulumpcious · 29/08/2013 15:32
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