Name changed for this. I hope this is the right place.
My darling goddaughter has a life limiting illness. She and her ex have 2 DCs. One is of school age, one preschool. She is in hospital at the moment and the DCs are with her ex and his girlfriend (6 months pregnant) and the cause of their break up.
Girlfriend made it clear last week that this has to be temporary and she is unwilling to have the DCs with her and ex when the inevitable happens. Ex is upset but doesn't think he'll be able to change her mind and says he will not end the relationship in order to have them with him.
Goddaughter's mother died 5 years ago and her father is willing to have them but I honestly don't think he would be able to cope. She was born when they were in their 40s and had given up hope of having DCs.
It's a dreadful mess. Realistically my goddaughter will struggle to look after the children when/if she is allowed home but we hope she will have support from Social Services. But she's unlikely be around this time next year if the doctors are to be believed.
I'm travelling today to see her and hope to see her ex and the DCs but I don't know what to say to him. I'm hurting for DG and so angry with him. My heart is breaking for the DCs as it looks like foster care is the only solution.
I know no one can help but I'm hoping that maybe someone here can tell me that people change their minds and maybe girlfriend will realise it's the right thing to do.
Sorry to post and run but I'm leaving soon for the long journey north I'll read any replies tonight when I get back.
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goddmother · 18/08/2013 06:52
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