I generally have a pretty positive relationship with step dc, but quietly I resent the fact I seem to fall into the main carer role and everyone expects it, most of all them.
I wouldn't say this in rl, but I do often feel like dh should pull his weight more because they are HIS children. Once again we're falling back in the habit were they look to me for all guidance/ meals/ maid service without a thought to look to dh or their mum. They look to them for fun, contact etc and have good relationships but if it's hunger, school issues, shopping needs or work it's me. Probably because I do it and always have. Now I have bio dc's it's getting worse as they grow, I used to opt out of cooking meals etc when it got too far or go out to control the mick taking. But now I'm hardly going to take bio dc shopping for new shoes and miss out step dc or just cook for bio dc.
I end up resenting dh for lazy parenting and it drives a wedge and also get short with dc unfairly at times. He's rather traditional with male/ female role ideas, despite my efforts, and this makes for a difficult dynamic I find. I'm not a stay at home mum either.
I know the bigger issue is his lack of work around the place and parenting laziness plus their mum's sporadic input, but does anyone have experience of this and specifically the relationship with step dc? I like them, but inside I suppress a bit of annoyance at all the leg work they provide and teenage angst I deal with whilst I feel bio parents have the fun. I wouldn't be without them though but it brings mixed feelings.
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Do you end up being the main carer for step dc? How do you feel?
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updownaroundabout · 14/08/2013 22:38
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