I am on both sides of the step-parenting divide. On the one hand, my DS has a step-mother. She is wonderful. She loves him. We get on very well, are friends and spend lots of time together with our younger children. There is no problem at all on that front.
On the other hand, My DP (father of my DD) has a DS of his own. He is 4.
DP and his ex don't speak. At all. They communicate by text message whenever she feels like she wants to tell him something, but she won't ever discuss anything like an adult.
I am sitting on my hands waiting for her to make a decision about what access she will allow us once DSS goes to full time school in September. She won't discuss it. If DP makes a suggestion, she vetoes it without any conversation or reason. So we are waiting...
Now we find out that she's put DSS into childcare for 2 days a week over the summer. I am a teacher. DP works flexible hours. We live 20 minutes from them and we usually have him for 2 days and 2 nights a week. I feel as though, if she can't have him for any reason, she should at least ask DP whether he can have him before putting him into childcare. That's how it works with me and my ex-h. If I can't have DS, I ask him - and the other way round. I would never unilaterally decide to pay for childcare without consulting him.
DP is a hands-on keen parent. He provides in every way possible for both of this children. He has had to fight and fight over the years to get more access to his son. She makes it as difficult as she possibly can.
So - I am not going to say or do anything about this, because it's not my place, but I need to rant on here to people who might understand. This bloody woman is making plans that have a knock-on effect to my family without consulting any of us...again. I'm just sick of it and wish DP would man up and pull her up on it.
That is all. Thanks for listening.
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snotfunny · 23/07/2013 16:43
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