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your dp can get a court order for access surely, then what goes on in his access and who the children see is down to him.

if he won't do that he is being selfish

He sees them every other Saturday but she says it has to be at her house, which obviously I am not happy about. If he went for a court order could she not demand that its supervised access" so then its still the same situation, because that's basically what it is at the moment, because she won't let him take them off because she doesn't want them meeting us

Afaik it would only be supervised if there are concerns about him being left alone with the children. Even if supervised context is ordered in court, once he proves he's not a threat to them, the court order usually changes.

Your baby is only 5 months, she won't remember this at all. When she's older the other dc mum hopefully will have moved on and weekend access will be arranged and it will hopefully all work out!

I wouldn't argue with my dp over no other woman, fuck that disengage and don't allow it to wind you up. Your baby has 18 years of childhood in front of her to get to know her other siblings.

He's not a threat to them she knows that, it is literally just because she doesn't like me being around.

I no my baby is only 5 months and doesn't know what is going on at the moment, but his other kids are at an understanding age, and I feel they should of known her from the beginning, because if they ever do meet, its going to be weird for them and then they will ask questions as to why they are only meeting her years down the line

That's not your problem and she will have to answer to them why they haven't always known her. Don't engage it's not your problem.

Sorry I didn't mean he is a threat to them, just that she might say that as a way of forcing supervised contact.

Even though your dd is so young I personally think this is something that needs to be sorted sooner rather than later.
And thinking about it, if it went to court a judge may well rule that the dc all have a right to meet each other.

What a sad story op. I would love my son to be part of his dads new family, but he's not welcome. It sounds like you've done all you can. Hopefully the other children will understand when they're older that it wasn't your doing. Good luck. What a lovely lady you are.

No I no U didn't mean he was a threat, yes she would do exactly that and make out that he was.

I agree it needs to b sorted sooner rather than later, for his other kids sake more really cos there abit older and understand more, but seems to me what she says goes, which is a joke because it will mess with my daughters life

Court would seem to b the only way of getting this sorted, its just making him go, I think he seems to think it will make worse, but surely court would say alternate weekends at his/our residence?

Ah that's ok then, glad I wasn't misunderstood.

I don't think court could make it worse, even if he gets supervised contact its not really any worse than he gets now.

Hope.you get it sorted soon x

If she got supervised contact then it can take place at a contact centre. I think the sooner ur dp builds a relationship with his kids away from their mum the better.

And yes I think court would be a good idea for getting a clear access plan.

He used to have them every other weekend at his, but then wen she found out about me she stopped it and said he had to see them at her house.

I dont know on what grounds she can say it has to be supervised cos there's just no need for it, but she will do everything to b difficult.

its just making him go, I think he seems to think it will make worse, but surely court would say alternate weekends at his/our residence?

OP, this isn't your fight to be involved in.

If your DP doesn't want to fight for his DCs to spend time with him, and their step-sibling, then there is nothing you can do about that.
You may have less respect for him as a result, and may believe he is placing his ex ahead of your shared DC, but that's his choice; you can't make him do anything.

Half, not step sibling, of course - sorry!

Agree its up to your dp to sort this out and put his foot down with the ex. does he know how strongly you feel about this?

I no its up to him to sort, I can't even though I do get hasseling txts from her occasionally, because she some how got my number! Yes he knows how strongly I feel, and always says I really want them to meet im trying to sort it, but the nicey nicey softly softly approach dont work, he needs to put his foot down, but clearly doesn't want to piss her off because he doesn't know what she mite do