Hi,
I'm just after some advice on how to handle the situation we're in please.
I have two DSC, DSD is 8 and DSS is 5 and we're really concerned about their teeth and the lack of concern that their Mum seems to have about the problems.
DSS has had many fillings, about 12 all together, has had several abscesses and has recently had to have 6 teeth extracted. When he was a baby he got quite poorly and had to spend some time in hospital and apparently the antibiotics he was given could have weakened his teeth.
DSD hasn't had any problems with her milk teeth but now she has adult teeth and within months of some of them coming through they were stained, a yellowy-orangey stain, but now her front teeth are starting to go brown.
Whilst they're with us we do our best to limit sugary treats, we supervise them brushing etc.
DP's Mum used to spoil them with sweets and chocolate (like grannies do) but we've spoken to her and she's subtly made changes too.
DP has spoken to his ex about it but she just always shrugs it off. Apparently she cleans their teeth twice a days (although the kids tell us that they don't have to clean them at bedtime!), she blames the problems with DSS's teeth on them being weak and apparently the dentist has said that DSD's teeth are fine, but how can brown stains be fine?
We've recently changed dentists (through recommendation) and he is so lovely, I'm a really nervous patient and he really put me at ease and he was absolutely fantastic with my 4yo DS too, explaining what everything is, letting him play with the buttons on the chair, DS really enjoyed it.
As DSS has had really bad experiences of the dentist he is understandably terrified of going so DP has suggested to his ex that we register them at our dentists as he is so good with nervous patients and children but she just said "it's OK, I'm their Mother, I'll look after their dental care thank you!"
What else can we do? We don't want to seem like we're having a go at her but we also don't want the kids to grow up hating the dentists or having to have more work on their teeth.
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twinkletwinkle9 · 28/06/2013 16:29
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