I have two SC who are with us EOW. Their mum has a BF who moved in with her last year so this is the first Fathers Day since he has been around. Last year we were lucky enough to have the SC on Fathers Day so there was no issue.
This year our weekend was last weekend and the SC came with presents for DP (which is sweet and lovely) but they had also apparently bought presents and cards for the stepdad. My DP feels a bit sad about this as he feels like he is their dad and that is isn't appropriate for them to celebrate Fathers Day with the the exW DP. It's not like they don't see their dad regularly.
I feel a bit uncomfortable about it too (I think the kids did too as they mentioned to their Dad that they got the other guy stuff "bit he isn't their Dad". Made me a bt sad.) I would never expect them to get me any Mothers Day cards etc and if our weekend was on Mothers Day I would ask if exW would want to swap weekends. DP was told when he mentioned to her about not spending Father's Day with them that they "had plans". No offer to let them visit extra or whatever.
How would you feel about this? Totally acceptable or not?
Please don't flame me for being a SM or anything, if you think it's acceptable that's fine of course
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Mycatistoosexy · 12/06/2013 15:46
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