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Bit fed up of not being asked about things for dsd but being expected to sort out everything with dd & ds.

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Icantstopeatinglol · 09/06/2013 13:22

Basically I'm just a bit fed up of not being asked about situations where we have to provide extra help for dsd when I end up run ragged trying to sort out ds & dd because of it. I don't even mind helping out I just feel like dh just says yes straight away and then when I say that we have things planned I feel like I'm the one being awkward.
Anyone else in this situation?

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Icantstopeatinglol · 09/06/2013 15:48

Anyone? Bump.

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babyhmummy01 · 09/06/2013 18:48

Nope but have read other threads where ppl are. You need to speak to your dp and lay down some strict rules. Mine knows better than to agree to anything without checking with me first as his work schedule means it normally ends up being me chasing after his kids!

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Bonsoir · 09/06/2013 22:22

Yes, your DH shouldn't agree to any rescheduling of contact time with DSD before consulting you and listening to your opinion. You cannot endlessly rearrange your life around DSC.

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Lostinsuffolk · 10/06/2013 09:59

I agree with bonsoir, it's not on agreeing to stuff and then expecting you to sort it all out. Is there a way that you'd feel strong enough to put your foot down and confront him on it calmly explaining that the impact on you is enormous and its just unfair. Obviously explain you're trying to support him but a little discussion about things first is only polite. You're not a child minder after all?! Mine used to do the same but after a few big discussions he agreed it wasn't fair to dump all the plans on me and we are much more a unit. I only support him now, I try not to parent too much and the status quo is much better with us and the kids.

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tigerrose · 11/06/2013 10:10

yes I have that too, mine told me las week that as his son is starting school this year we will have to look after him for 3 weeks in the school holiday next year and I was told that he can do a week, then we can go on a family holiday then I can do a week!!!! I responded by saying perhaps you could work from home? then he decided he better ask his parents for help!!!!. You need to let him know that you have plans for your time and you are not their Mum but you are more than happy to help as long as you are consulted if you are expected to be involved. After all would he expect you to consult him if the situation was reversed?

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