Hi there

[mummyno2]

Thought I'd say hello and I'm new to this forum so treat me gently. I've been lurking for a few days, please excuse that, but I wanted to make sure that this was a friendly place with sensible people posting before I said hello. I've seen a few others that just become far too childish and it does my head in. I want to know that I can come and voice my opinons about my highs, lows and fears without prejudice. Just friendly advice.
My story is that i've recently become a full-time Stepmum rather than a fortnightly one and I'm still getting used to them being there all the time. It's been on the cards since about xmas due to involvement with SS (Social Services). So it was no great surprise when they recommended that my DSD's (twins aged 7 1/2) came and live me and my DP. We've had good staying contact with them for the 3 years me and DP have been together(and no my DP and his Ex had already split up before I met him) and knew the school very well as they had also been involved with the whole SS thing.
We're a month into it now, and we're just about managing to fit both our full time jobs around them. DP's mum and dad have been really great and help us take them to school. And one of the DSD's friends mum childminds for us a couple of days a week.
So there you go thats me. right got to do some work, I've been on here far too much today!

[FruitAndNutcase]

Hi Mummyno2 and welcome to MN. You will be able to ask for all sorts of advice on here and you will get a very large range of open and frank but allways very honest opinions. If you are up for a laugh, join the Nutty Stepmums Club thread, we use that to let our hair down and have a laugh!

[NotActuallyAMum]

Hello mummyno2

Welcome to MN

[cinnamongreyhound]

Hi I only found this site last week and it has already been helpful but also a bit harsh too! Good to have opinion from all sides of it though.

[Marne]

Hi mummyno2, welcome to MN,
Im a part time step mum to 2 boys and a girl, age 13, 10 and 6 also have 2 of my own age 2.3 and 10 weeks.
Sounds like you have your hands full

[alligator]

Hi welcome to mn. It can be quite a friendly place. Sounds like you ahve your hands full TBH. Im a SMam to dss (14) and mammy to dd (2). I work full time and dp is a SAHD which is great and means dss can stay over during holidays etc and see his dad much more.

[Squirrel3]

Hello mummyno2, welcome to MN.

[mummyno2]

Thanks for the welcome. Not sure I'm up to the Nutty stage yet, but I'll bear that in mind.

Is calling myself mummyno2 pretentious? In my eyes whilst I never gave birth to them, the things I do for them, ie trying to get rids of nits, reading with them, cutting their nails, holding their hair back when they are sick, I consider this 'mummy' type things to do. My dsd's are extremely up on it and know that their BM does not do these things for them. I've no wish for them to call me mum either. Does that sounds strange then as I've used it in my nickname??? They have occasionally called me step mum, btbh I've got so used to them calling me by first name it sounded too weird.

[reflection]

Hi. I've been around for a while and I can honestly say that I have have some fab support in my time. lots of people here to read and support. We don't always het it right but if your looking for plenty of different points of view then your in the right place.

I have been a part time step mum to two children. SS (16) and SD (13). They have different BM's and they couldn't be more different, one sane the other rather contrary! So, I have two different experiences in one...

However to cut a long story short I have just split, or am in the middle of splitting, from thier Dad. However I do still have good contact with the kids.

So there you go. Welcome. We will be here if you need us.

[reflection]

Oh. The name thing. Well, what ever u use here is just up to you and what the kids call you is also what suits you. Not something I think you need to worry about. Just take their lead, all thay need is love not your title.

BTW sounds like your already doing a good job

[nicnack2]

Hi Mummyno2

I am also fulltime step mum to ss whi is 15 and have two ds. i have found the site good and to knew that what i feel sometimes is normal in the step parenting world.

[mummyno2]

Thanks Reflection and nicnack2 for the kind words. Hopefully I'll be confident enough to give some words of advice too.