Hello everyone who is reading this,
I'm a right old newbie - I've literally just joined! I've had a look around and I hope I don't tread on anyone's "toes", but I wanted to talk about my situation, and hope that anyone can give me advice or guidance, or experience, which would be great (but I'm not holding my breath).
Are we sitting comfortably?
So, bit of background: I'm just about in my early 20s, and I don't have any children (nor any on the way - hence the "faking it"). I've been in a relationship now for nearly 5 months with my boyfriend.
Now then, bf has just (in the last 2 weeks) become a father to twins (from an earlier relationship). I've been very happy for him, and on the day they were born I was jumping off the walls with happiness. The trouble is, the next day I was bawling with tears because I felt really left out and I'm not allowed to see the babies (the mother doesn't know about me, and won't for a while). Every day since then I've felt either sad or happy, and most of all, very alone. Of my friends, only one has children, and none are in my situation.
Bf and I have always discussed the situation, and he has said he wants me to be a 3rd parent to babies, and to be equal as much as possible - more so if we live together and they visit. So why do I feel like I've gone from being his partner to being a thing he visits occasionally?
Has anyone got any advice or has anyone been here? Is it doable, or should I go hide in my bed?
Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening!
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AnnaNanna2 · 19/05/2013 13:18
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