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I am so fed up with this :(

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twilights21 Fri 17-May-13 14:50:58

I am married with a sd 17, d 15 (from first marriage) , ss 13 and s age 6. All who live in our family home, and have done so for 9 years. My dh ex left him and the children when they were 6 and 2. We met after this.

My ss has been an ongoing problem. He is / has been aggressive, mouthy, destructive, he has no respect for anyone or anything. Everything is a problem for him, he wont eat something one day, but will eat it another, he wont do anything hes asked, if you run him a bath he'll want a shower, if you ask him to have a shower he'll want a bath etc.

He talks to me like I am a piece of cr@p . He steals from my purse, from my room, from his sisters and brother. He has hit, pushed kicked his brother and is constantly putting him down, he is subjecting him to emotional abuse, making him feel worthless etc and I am expected to let it happen as hes his brother. If he was being bullied at school etc my husband would be the first to go in and try to sort it .
my daughter spends most of her time in her room, due to the constant problems.

My ss wanted to go and live with his mum, which he did for 6 months, then he came back every weekend and one weekend she texted my h and said im dropping his stuff back you can keep him. that was 4 months ago and as my husband doesnt want to talk to her, she hasnt had him for any contact since hence we have had no break from it.

I am staying at my mothers fri nights with my son and daughter to get away, and spend most evenings from 6.30 til 8.30 in my room .

Advice please.

elliebellys Fri 17-May-13 16:55:32

Twilights,omg how awful for you nd the kids.this is no way to live.have you had family councilling at all.

twilights21 Fri 17-May-13 18:51:05

Hi Ellie, no we haven't and I doubt it would do any good , he doesn't want to change , we have talked and talked , it doesn't make any difference , and my dh probably wouldn't want to go either .

twilights21 Fri 17-May-13 18:53:36

Hi Ellie, no we haven't and I doubt it would do any good , he doesn't want to change , we have talked and talked , it doesn't make any difference , and my dh probably wouldn't want to go either .

BabyHMummy Tue 21-May-13 10:31:30

Sounds like a severe case of rejection and pushing boundaries to see how far he can push before you reject him too. I really think you need to speak to a gp and get your ss some help before it escalates further.

Has his behaviour got worse since his mum rejected him again?

Your dh needs to deal with his son, being consistent and strong in not accepting his behaviour - but there is quite clearly something emotionally wrong with his son

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