Help with step parenting special needs child

[Lala1980]

Hi if anyone can point me in the direction of any thread, step parenting or otherwise that can help me, I would really be grateful.
DP's oldest son (1 of 4) is 11 years old, and has ADHD, aspergers, asthma, and sleep apnoea (those are the ones I can remember).
The children only stay with us every other weekend so we haven't got a lot of time with them anyway, but I always struggle with this child because I don't know how to handle his behaviour. I don't know what is related to his conditions that he can't help, and when he is just being plain naughty and we shouldn't let it slide.
If you can point me to any books/threads/websites, I'd be so grateful as I really felt this weekend went well with the other 3 in general, but DSS's behaviour has just shadowed the whole weekend.
Thank you in advance for your support. I am very novice in terms of step parentings, have no kids and know nothing about speciakl needs but really want to learn!

[Readyisknitting]

Hello, try over on the special needs boards, they're much more knowledgable. Well done you ,because its not easy.

[kalpamum]

Hello. Every child with special needs is different and adults in their life need to fully be aware of their difficulties and strategies to deal with situations.
I have a child with special needs and I have made sure that her father and step mum have received copies of all reports and also discussed ways of dealing with situations. I think the best advise would be to ask his mother if possible to discuss strategies with you to deal with his behavior, that way the child is receiving the same support at both houses which a child with these difficulties needs. Hopefully his mother would welcome you wanting to understand his special needs and wanting to provide the correct support.
Hope this helps

[Fairy130389]

Hop on over to the special needs board - they are really experienced and will have some great advice for you I'm sure.