Not really a step issue, but thought I'd post here as if I post anywhere else it will just be assumed it is my fault and in any case I'm an evil old witch for commenting
Some of you will be very familiar with my situation. For those of you who aren't I'll give a short summary. DSS1 is 17, also have a DSS2 who is 14. DSS1 (and DSS2 actually) doesn't ever spend any time socialising with friends. He doesn't ever actually mention any friends, so we're really not sure whether he has any or not, although when DS asked he says he does, in school, but that he just doesn't want to see them outside of school.
He finds it literally impossible to entertain himself. So if there is a spare moment during your typical weekend down time for example (in between all the normal outings, visiting family, eating etc etc), he literally does not know what to do with himself and asks "what are we doing next dad". DH has tried for a long time to encourage him to think about what he would like to do himself. Also suggesting and finding various activities for him to do. But clearly getting ridiculous at this age. At his mother's house, this problem doesn't really exist because his mother is of a very controlling nature and literally he does everything with her - trips to Tesco, every last thing. So he simply never has any "down time" at home to deal with.
So yesterday, we had friends round and the subject came up of whether we like our own company. And DSS1 pipes up that he hates his own company and being by himself.
This is somewhat of a dilemma for someone who doesn't want to spend any time with his friends. So either he's with a parent 24/7 or he's seemingly miserable
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DSS1 "hates being by himself" but doesn't spend any time with friends
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allnewtaketwo · 22/04/2013 10:59
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