Potted history, DH has three DC. 12 15 and 17.
His exW left MH 7 years ago and set up home with her new bf (who is 13 years younger and with whom she had been having an affair for about 18 months) the marriage limped on until 2006, she sleeping down stairs, she then moved out taking the kids, but only down the road.
DH kept the MH and bought ExW out.
Kids spend two nights a week including every sat night with us.
I meet DH 1n 2008 and we are now married. Both in late 40's and I have no kids. We still live in the ExMH. Kids still have their own rooms.
Rooms were a bit of a mash of stuff and ExW took everything when she moved out, leaving DH with a few bits which he supplemented with old stuff and some bits from Ikea. Slowly I have been turning this around and trying to make it a bit more homely, modern and practical for the kids who are growing up.
To now... DSD2 (15) has been a bit of a handful. She can be lovely, she can be kind and considerate. She can also be hugely difficult, demanding and prone to tantrums over the smallest things (this has always been the case, not just teens).
Anyway, I have spent the past few months planning her room. It is a very difficult space dominated by very sloping celings which compromises everything. She had no storage and a silly old wardrobe (full of DH's junk) which blocked out the lovely window. The only option was bespoke. So we saved up. She saw the plans and we involved her in every step. We finally finsihed yesterday.
She has been peculiar all week (when the carpenter was there). She has refused to engage and look in the room, not shown any interest. Last night with the big reveal she literally just shrugged her shoulders at me- she didn't want to see the room (which is stunning by the way). This morning I hear a commotion in the kitchen and before I can get to the door (which is closed) I hear her sobbing and shouting at DH.
She hates the room, wants it decorated (we left the colour as it was as there was no damage and the paint was still fine and a lovely colour) she has no where to put her clothes (she only ever had about a drawer full as they are kept at her mums as they should be for practical reasons, nothing we have said or done) there are now lovely new wardrobes - my DH has filled up one but there are three others. There is a beautiful window seat with four huge drawers for her, a bedside cabinet with two drawers in..we have put up some lovely funky pictures that we have had framed especially for her. The whole thing has cost us a fortune in time and money.
I am really lump in throat. I have not made a big thing about this, its all been done with her being consulted (she saw a copy of the plans twice) and with her views taken on board as she hated the old wardrobe and wanted a double bed (which she now has!!).
boo hoo. I am so angry I can't engage with her at the moment. She is otherwise fine, completely ok.
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taxiforme · 30/03/2013 16:04
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