I know there is really nothing we can do about this but it is so upsetting to see and I am in the mood for a rant!!
My dsc are very damaged little kids. DP and his ex had the messiest nastiest divorce and only communicate by text or email.
DSD constantly complains of stomach pains (usually when she is told to do something/wants attention etc etc) Her Mum took her to the doctor who has apparently suggested she has IBS (I didn't even know kids could get this) and that it is stress related (she's 8), but nobody seems to want to find out why an 8 year old is this stressed. I think it is down to her poor diet. Her teeth are going brown and to date she has 4 fillings already .
DSS is 11 and poos himself quite regularly and wets the bed but nobody seems to think this is a problem except me and DP. He has loads of fillings too and is very overweight. All he wants to do is play on the PSP or watch DVDs, getting him off the sofa is a mission in itself!
They both arrive to us on Friday nights looking (and smelling) like they haven't washed all week, in dirty clothes. We give them both a bath and they put 'our' clothes on (no transfer of clothing/toys between houses is allowed) and we watch what they eat/drink and do what we can for them but it seems like a waste of time as they are only with us for a few days. We have them EOW.
On the plus side, their behaviour is really improving and DP is finally (mostly) parenting them and less 'Disneying' is going on. They are lovely kids and get on great with my boys.
He has mentioned all the above to his ex wife but he gets told to f* off and stop criticising / mind his own business. We have thought about mentioning it to the school but they have probably already noticed and this will cause almighty problems with his ex wife too.
They aren't being abused or seriously neglected (ie they are fed and clothed and seem like they are happy at home) but surely someone else must see that all isn't right. Mustn't they?
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Kaluki · 19/10/2012 11:05
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