DH and his ex split around 6-7 years ago when she left him for her new partner. She took DSS to live with her 2 hours away and it was agreed that DH would have him every other weekend, occasional weeks in school holidays and that they would alternate Christmas.
The alternating Christmas bit has never happened in the almost 5 years I have been with DH. DSS has always remained with his mum for Xmas and we have had him the following or previous weekend. Although not happy with this, DH has never pushed as DSS used to say that he wanted to spend Christmas in his own house.
However, this year, DSS has said quite early on that he would like to come to us at Christmas. He is now 12 and has been made to spend the last 2 Xmases with his mother's partner's family who live even further away from them than we do. He kept asking DH to speak to his mother about it so we could get this year agreed. So DH trying to be reasonable suggested that DSS wake up in his own house, open presents there and then either we collect him mid-late morning or they drop him here on way to her partner's parents or we meet up with them on their way. DSS is with us for the rest of Xmas Day and then they collect him or we meet up with then at whatever time they leave his parents on Boxing Day. So we have tried to fit around the plans they have already made as much as possible.
DH's ex has gone mad saying she can't spend Xmas without her DS. DH has
pointed out that he has been spending every Xmas without his DS. He is very upset about it but doesn't know what he can do as his ex is absolutely refusing for DSS to come to us at Xmas. She has said he can come on 27th onwards, we are both back at work then. DSS is also upset and I don't know what to say or do. DH doesn't want to cause tension with his ex but does not think he is being unreasonable.
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Redbird12 · 13/10/2012 13:14
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