I'm so cross! My 2 DSD's came to live with us last year as their mum went into a home (alcoholic, neglectful of the girls etc). I have become like a mum to them and they love me -I care for them and discipline them with the full support of my DP . My MIL came round for a BBQ a week or so ago. the youngest DSD (9) was having a strop and stomped off to the lounge - I went in after about 10 mins to tell her it was time for bed - she still had a strop and ignored me so i said "fine, if you're going to be like that you won't be going to the stables with my sister tomorrow" .. onset much wailing and sobbing, running out to the garden to my DP and MIL who promptly says "its not up to Fooso whether you can go its up to your dad" - completely undermined me. My DP called her a few days later and said comments like that aren't helpful - Fooso is like a mum to them etc... So then we go on a big family camping trip and she ignores me practically for 4 days - then I get home to a letter from her! She says "sorry if you took what I said the wrong way, I just don't see why you had to go in 15mins after the strop and stop her going..I don't like to see my grandaughter upset like that - rest assured I'll keep away from you all now to ensure I don't upset anyone" - She wasn't event in the house when I said it! This from a woman who never babysits, comes round to see them etc. What has annoyed me the most is I have taken on the role of their mum for the last year (I have my own DS too) and not once has she acknowledged anything I've done to give them a good home and security yet she has made me feel like a wicked stepmother over one stupid incident!! GRRR !...
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