DP's 4 children stay with us EO weekend. DP's ex-wife drops kids to us 5pm on Friday evening, DP takes them home by 6pm Sunday. This basic agreement to my knowledge is court ordered. DP does not have great relationship with his ex. She witholds communication regarding the children and rarely replies to his texts or emails.
The kids live approx 15 miles round trip from us.
Ex wife texted this morning to say youngest DSS (4) has party until 6pm where they live so she will drop the other 3 over at 5pm but DP must pick youngest up at 6pm.
I personally feel that this is unreasonable as we only have one car and I am not always about, so even if DP has access to a car at that time, he would have to drag the other three kids out as soon as they arrive to pick up the youngest.
My personal opinion is that ex wife should not accept invitations or make arrangements for the kids on DP's contact weekends. That is his time with his children, he doesn't get a lot of time with them because of his work, and he treasures that time. To be honest, he doesn't want them missing out on parties and school stuff, so 9 times out of 10, he wouldn't turn down the invitation either, but unless he has the car and childcare for the other 3 in place, the other 3 get dragged from pillar to post if one child has a party...
AIBU? I personally feel that ex wife should have asked if it was possible to pick youngest up at 6pm, or suggested she would bring them all over a 5 not 6pm...
Are other people happy when ex makes arrangements for the kids that affect their DP's time with them, or is this normal (I am not a biological mother myself)...
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Lala1980 · 20/07/2012 13:43
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