DP and I have 5 kids between us, my DS and his 4 DC. 4 out of 5 of the kids are teenagers and all are bright enough to go to Uni and certainly 2 of them are stating they would like to go.
Now, because I live with DP, my DS will be entitled to no financial help and we will have to top up his loans or he will need to get a part time job whilst at uni.
As I understand it, DP's children (whose Mum doesn't work) will get lots of grants to enable them to go to Uni.
The problem is that although DP and my household income is high, my earnings are a small percentage of that and here is the dilema, should I ask DP to contribute to the savings I want to provide for my DS bearing in mind he probably won't have to contribute very much to his own childrens uni education? Currently we don't really share finances and I contribute 50% to household bills and he tends to pay for luxuries. I pay for everything for my DS and I would feel embarrassed to have to ask DP for anything for DS.
Of course, his ex wifes circumstances could change and he could also have to pay to support his kids through uni as I'm pretty sure his ex will never give them any money - she sees that as DP job anyway.
My DS Dad won't contribute, so that's not an option. I'm starting to panic a bit that my DS won't be able to go to uni because I can't afford it although on paper, I can.
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theredhen · 15/03/2012 14:31
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