We've had a lovely time over Christmas. Spent a lot of time all together round DP's house with all the DCs (his four and my two) Even had them all over at mine too:) Staring to feel a bit like all one family at times and have had lots of fun together.
DCs have mostly been getting on well and asking when they'll see each other next - all except DP's DS2 (9) and my DD (8), who have declared that they are "mortal enemies" and waging a bit of a war on each other
A lot of the time it's been fine as my DD plays with DP's DD2(11), and his DS2 plays with my DS(11) and everyone is happy, but when there's a time when the DCs are all together, particularly if they're at a lose end they'll be screams and most often my DD comes running to us in tears saying DP's DS2 has hit/kicked/pulled her hair. When you ask more questions it usually emerges that she's been winding him up, harrassing him, poking him, etc - ie she goes looking for trouble, then gets it.
I think a lot of the problem is that - unlike natural siblings - there's no natural hierarchy between them - DP's DS is 9 months older, but the same height and same school year as my DD (different schools). DP's other 3 DCs treat DS2 as the baby of the family, but when my DD copies them, he isn't taking it from her.
DP think that it will get better in time, as they get used to each other. And we have both talked to our respective child about not having mortal enemies. I'm hoping he's right, but also wonder whether there's more we could do to encourage a nice relationship between the two of them, or at least not a war. At the moment I think DD would be quite unhappy about the prospect of moving in with him, despite being very fond of DP and his two DDs. Any suggestions?
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Rivalry/fighting between DD and DP's DS - any suggestions?
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Purpleroses · 03/01/2012 21:27
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