How do you deal with the fact you've already basically decided on how you want to bring your children up, and you weren't with the SP at the time, what do you do if you have different ideas? I have one DS and pretty much planned on raising him myself, since XP wasn't interested and then of course I was a lone parent for a while and expected that to be a longer time than it was.
It's early to be discussing this since we don't plan on having any more children for at least the next few years, but we do both want children in the future, and I would ideally like to do the same kind of things that I've done with DS, including some which I know are a bit out of the ordinary - for example I'm still breastfeeding DS, and he's just turned 3. I co slept with him until he went into a bed. And some other things which DP hasn't come across before, and he seemed fine with, up until now, and then suddenly he announces that it does make him feel a bit uncomfortable when I feed DS and he wouldn't ever tell me what to do with my own child but if we had a child together, he'd expect to have input on these things. And while I'm willing to compromise on some things, other things are non negotiable.
How do you deal with these issues?
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When you have children, and your new partner doesn't.
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BertieBotts · 20/10/2011 10:53
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