Hi, first-time post, so please bear with me.
I am going to cut it really short so will miss out huge detail. We have a close family and DSD lives with myself and her father. The bottom line is that my DSD can cry for hours and even days if I am sympathetic when she comes back from visiting her BM. If I change tact and am gentle yet firm, the crying stops immediately. On this point though I tend to be more sympathetic than firm as I don't like being firm when she is missing her BM. And i think that she has twigged on to that fact because she is now really pushing it and its getting worse, not better. She has been living with us since 3 and she is now 7 (Her BMs decision). She is a great little girl, but she does push things like every child would i guess.
Also, this crying thing always happens at bed-time and is really causing great disruption as I have a baby and a toddler too who are getting upset at this non-stop crying and the fact that i drop everything, literally leave the DDs hungry whilst trying to make sure that DSD is emotionally OK.
The thing is, this cannot go on, but I do not know how to handle it. As long as DSD is crying (she can be heard from every room) DD1 starts getting upset keeps saying 'sorry' to DSD. Then she starts to get moody and confused. Then I cannot get DD1 to bed in the evening either. By the time I get to my hungry baby, she has cried herself to sleep.
It's all getting too much now, and this has to stop. The question is - how??
Do I just get firm and say this is not on, or do I just let it be.
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Am I expecting too much from DSD?
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Spru · 16/10/2011 15:50
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