this probably belongs in 'relationships' rather than here, but it is partly about stepparenting and i can't face putting it anywhere else.
i am very depressed. i keep telling DH but he doesn't really get it (i think he doesn't know how to deal with it and we are too busy to cope anyway). I am terribly homesick (my family all live overseas). I am having a difficult time at work. and the home situation is always tough - a baby and 2 teenage SCs - things on that front are lots better than they used to be, but even so, just the base level of effort and stress is pretty high (as I probably don't need to tell anyone here!)
I had a CPN coming to see me at the house for a year after DD was born, but she had to stop when the baby turned one. She told me, when she left, that all I really needed was someone to talk to. That sounds possibly true to me. But there is no one. Since getting married, all my friendships seem to have disappeared or turned a bit flat. I don't really have a social life any more.
DH and I were seeing a counsellor for a long time but have stopped (she sort of said that she thought she had done all she could).
There are some things that have happened since DH and I got together. He thinks I should be over them, but I can't really get there. He hasn't always been very honest about money issues, whihc he has owned up to, but which really hasn't been fully addressed, either.
Another thing is that some of his family don't accept me or DD; they don't think he should have remarried, I guess (I don't think it is about disliking me so much as about a weird cult of worship surrounding First Wife). At our wedding rehearsal dinner, DH's dad told me that DH would cheat on me eventually. At our wedding, DH's dad gave a speech, one half of which was about First Wife, and which never mentioned me at all. I haven't been able to really move past it, even though I don't know exactly what DH could have done really, it wasn't HIM that gave the speech! DH's dad and wife never acknowledge our DD at all, either, despite sending presents to the older kids.
DH has just been asked to help organise and speak at a public event in First Wife's memory, and I think I am bothered about that too.
Christmas is coming up, and our first wedding anniversary, and I feel lousy. I feel like my whole life has slipped from my grasp. I don't enjoy myself, and I feel like it is beginning to affect the way I act with DD.
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brdgrl · 15/10/2011 16:17
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