Fed up

[purplecupcake]

I am not a step parent, I have 4 lovely teenagers.. me and their father split up over 10 years ago, so this has been going on a long long time. About a year after the break up we both got new partners. For the past 9 years my children have suffered emotional abuse from his girlfriend... How can he stand by and let her speak and act to his children the way she does

It started with her not allowing them in the house when he wasnt in, they would be locked outside in the garden when they were younger but now most of it is done over txt messages and internet, she will call my children slags, scumbags and im the worst mother in the world. Im not one bit bothered what she calls me but my children do not deserve this, and why would he let her do it. None of the children are allowed to go to the house to see their dad, infact for the past year he has seen them once. Now the children are teenagers they have started to tell her what they think of her, and that has caused problems between them and their dad..he will not speak to 2 of them. Through it all i have never once bad mouthed their father in front of them, but its getting harder and harder as he really doesnt give a shit about his kids

I used to tell them when they were little after we broke up that everything would be okay as they would have 2 families that love them very much... how wrong was i :(

Does anyone else have this problem?

[theredhen]

Totally agree. Your ex has the responsibility towards HIS children, not their step Mum. It's up to him to step between the two and deal with it.

Too many parents allow the kids to dominate their lives to the detriment of their relationships and sounds like this man is allowing his wife to dominate his life to the detriment of your children.

[PegsOnTheLine]

What incognito and redhen said.

This is very sad and your Ex needs to address the issue ASAP.

[purplecupcake]

thanks for the input .. He has made it clear that she comes before the children, lets just hope one day he realises, its probably too late by then though

[babyheavingmassofmaggots]

Just to echo the others, your ex is an utter cock to allow it. He's their dad and as someone said he needs to put a stop to it.

If he doesn't, then when the kids are old enough to make their own minds up they will leave him to it. It will be very sad for them.

It must be bloody hard sending them into that environment though. :(

[purplecupcake]

Thanks, luckily the children dont go to see him..the only contact they have with him now his through fb or txt, DD2 is blocked from his fb..so she has no contact at all..its just starting to get a bit tiresome, its been going on years and years

I used to be a step mum to his son when we were married, that son is now 23 and i have a good relationship with him, he also has no contact with dad because of the gf